Transmigrating to the 70’s: The Military Wife As A Farmer

  Chapter 155 Children’s Problems

On Monday morning, Han Mingxiu rode a bicycle to the county town to fetch her clothes. It was only after nine o'clock when he arrived at the county town. At this point, Aunt Gao and Uncle Gao must be sweeping the street. Han Mingxiu was inconvenienced to bother them, so he went first. Sister there.

It was working time at the moment, and the second sister was at home alone. She was very happy to see Han Mingxiu coming. She was at home all day long, and she was almost suffocated. A dear sister could come and follow her. Talking and chatting, I couldn't be more happy.

  "Show, come, eat some crabapple fruit, your second brother-in-law went to the orchard to pick me specially, but it's crispy."

  Han Mingyu pointed to a pot of scorched and scorched begonia fruits placed on the coffee table for Han Mingxiu to eat.

  Han Mingxiu looked at the green crabapple fruit, and suddenly there was pantothenic acid in her mouth.

  Although this green fruit was crispy, it was not sweet at all. It was more sour and sour. Before eating, she felt sour water coming out of her mouth. She really couldn't eat this kind of thing.

  However, Han Mingyu found it delicious. He picked up Begonia and took a bite. He ate it chuckingly, as if he couldn't feel the sourness of the fruit at all.

   Seeing that the second sister can eat sour so much, Han Mingxiu thought to herself, they all said sour children and hot girls, and the second sister loves sour sour, she is a kid in this birth.

  Although Han Mingxiu has no patriarchal thoughts, considering the second sister, she still hopes that this birth can have a son.

There are very few people in this age who are not patriarchal. The second sister is soft-tempered and lives with her parents-in-law. If this child can give birth to a son, the parents-in-law will definitely have a high look at her. That’s why she is especially hopeful. The second sister can give birth to a son.

  It’s just that she just thought about this in her heart, but she didn’t say it, for fear of burdening her second sister.

   "Second sister, who will take care of the child when he is born?"

  Han Mingyu is about to give birth in more than a month. Looking at her pregnant belly, Han Mingxiu couldn't help but think of the question of serving confinement.

Han Mingyu said, "Of course my old woman will take care of the confinement, but after confinement, I will take care of the child by myself. My husband and the old woman said that they won’t let me go to work when the child is born, and there is no shortage of me at home anyway. The one who earned the ten or eight yuan asked me to serve the children at home and give birth to a few more while I was young."

  Han Mingxiu frowned upon hearing the Lin family’s plan, and said, "What about you? Do you think so too?"

  Han Mingyu nodded and said, "I can do anything, whether I go to work, or coax my children at home, it’s okay."

Seeing the attitude of the second sister, Han Mingxiu sighed softly and said, "Second sister, I don’t want to interfere with your family’s decision, but I still want to give you a suggestion. I think we women must be financially independent, even if You only earn ten or eight yuan a month. This ten or eight yuan is also a symbol of your independence. It is your confidence to sit on an equal footing with your in-laws. Sister, don’t depend on others financially, and don’t get your chin stuck in your chin. For other people’s food, you must maintain an independent spirit at all times, so that you will not be bullied and despised by others."

  In the last life, she watched too many stupid women who sacrificed themselves for the family. They also thought the same way as the second sister now. They felt that there was someone in the family making money and there was no shortage of what she earned, so they simply quit their job to take care of the family children at home.

  The original intention of this idea was good, but the final outcome was not good.

Once a woman loses her job, she treats her family as her entire business, and is detained in the small circle of the family for a long time. She will gradually become boring, and she will distance herself from her husband in thought and insight. Once the distance arises, family conflicts will follow.

  Furthermore, if you don’t work for a long time, you can’t make money at home. Gradually, a man will have an imbalance in his heart. He will feel that you owe him, and that he has worked hard to make money to support you.

Therefore, he will have a sense of superiority in front of you that you owe me, and the state of equality and mutual respect between you will slowly break with his imbalance, and he will try his best in life. Come and find your balance, until you fall into the dust in front of him.

What's more, some men ruthlessly abandon their wives after success. The reason is that he and his wives have already developed a distance, and his wife's knowledge and experience can no longer agree with him and live with such a wife. He is not happy...

  All kinds of terrible endings are not something that a fragile person like the second sister can bear.

  Although the second brother-in-law is kind-hearted and loves her second sister deeply, no matter how deep the love is, they cannot withstand uncontrolled consumption and the corrosion of years.

She didn’t want her second sister to follow in the footsteps of those women, nor did she want her to become the kind of mediocre housewife in the future, so she wanted to make her better, and always be better, so that no one in her mother-in-law’s family could be Can't despise her, so she will always have the confidence to sit on an equal footing with them.

  The way to make her excellent is to let her not sacrifice herself for the family, let her go out to work, give her the opportunity to grow and enrich herself, and not to be confined to the small circle of the family.

  Of course, this is only her wishful thinking, whether it can be realized, it depends on the second sister herself.

Hearing the earnest advice from her sister, Han Mingyu also got serious. She reluctantly said, "Xiu, sister understands what you mean. Actually, sister doesn't want monkeys to look after children at home. Sister is so young, why don't you want to go to work? But there is no way. Look, there are only a few people in the family. There must be one person staying at home to look after the children. They are all regular employees. Only one of them is a temporary worker. Who do you say I won't come back?

  Han Mingxiu said, “Then you can’t find a nanny or send your child to the nursery? Do you have to imprison yourself at home?”

Han Mingyu said, "Where can I find a nanny who knows everything? You don't know. I heard that some nanny is wicked, and they pretend to be good on the surface, but they always abuse when the parents are not at home. My child, I can’t tell when my child is young, how pitiful, I just thought, if my child is abused without my knowledge, I will definitely feel distressed, so it’s absolutely impossible to find a nanny."

"The nursery is even more unreliable. Think about it. Can a teacher watch a bunch of children who can’t eat or drink? Can he see it? No matter how hard the teacher is, he can’t rush to watch it carefully? And the child Too young is easy to get sick. If one of the children in the first class is sick, they must all be infected. I can't bear the child to suffer that sin."

  Han Mingyu said it very truthfully, and Han Mingxiu could not refute that his life is important, but his children’s childhood is also important.

  In the last life, she hadn’t heard about child abuse by nanny, and kindergarten teachers beat children from time to time. The second sister is right to think about it this way. I only hope that she will not lose herself in the process of taking care of children and family.

  (End of this chapter)